“Eighty percent of success is showing up.” ― Woody Allen
In order to be successful in life and meet your goals, you need to show up. If you want to lose weight or gain muscle mass, you have to show up at the gym. If you want to get your writing published, you have to write every day. If you want to learn a language, you have to practice with people who actually speak it. If you want to learn to sing or play an instrument, you have to show up for lessons, not to mention for practice sessions.
It’s amazing how many of us don’t show up for our own lives. We make assumptions about our inability to do something, thereby thwarting our efforts to achieve our goals. We compare ourselves negatively to others, as if there is no way to change, forgetting that we are the only ones who can initiate change, and that if we don’t like something about ourselves, we have the power to change it. We hold onto ideas, opinions, memories and assumptions that no longer serve us. We cling to relationships that should have ended long ago, because we are fearful of the unknown, or perhaps we are just too lazy to expend the energy to make new friends. We fail to make the most of each and every moment, daydreaming when we could be taking action, not listening carefully to other people because we are lost in our own thoughts. We put off doing things because we are waiting for the perfect timing, or we are afraid that we may fail. Many of us neglect to show up for our relationships, whether they are intimate relationships, family relationships, friendships, or business partnerships. We fail to listen to one another. We don’t take the time to be with one another. We forget to tell others that we love and appreciate them.
Here is a list of ways to show up for your life.
1. When you make a commitment a goal, take a specific action right away to cement your commitment.
2. Keep an open mind about your potential for achieving your goals.
3. Forget about what others are doing. Do your own thing.
4. Decide what changes you’d like to make in your life and then make an effort to BE the change you wish to achieve.
5. Take stock of your life and clean out the clutter of old goals, old ideas, old beliefs, and relationships that are no longer beneficial for either party. Replace them with new goals, ideas and beliefs. Make friends with people who are uplifting to be around and who bring out the best in you.
6. Stop thinking while people are talking and just listen, not only with your ears, but with your heart. Be present for other people.
7. Set realistic time frames and deadlines to achieve your goals, and stick to them.
8. Never miss the chance to tell someone you love or appreciate them.
9. Commit to spending time with those whose friendship you value, and take the time to express your love to your spouse or significant other and your children.
10. Learn from the past and then move on. Plan for the future, but don’t waste time worrying about it. Stay focused in the present. 🙂