The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are. –Unknown
I knew there was something I forgot to do. Here I was, all set to “get somewhere” now that I have so much free time in retirement, and I don’t seem to have made much headway. Guess I forgot to make a conscious decision not to stay in one place. That sounds like something I should have known before.
For the last few months I’ve been writing here and there about various aspects of living a conscious lifestyle, so it isn’t as if this concept is totally new to me. The vast majority of human beings, myself included, more or less bumble through life without thinking too much about where they’ve been, where they are headed, and how they plan to get there. Most people don’t stop to ask themselves why they do what they do each day or what they think is the overarching purpose in their lives.
Of course, planning things does involve thinking ahead, but we have to do it occasionally in order to inform our “now” moments. You can’t really make plans for your future until and unless you have looked at your past to see what went well and what could be improved upon, if it comes up again. And you can’t spell out your future until you are conscious of who you are right now, in this moment, as a result of all that has gone before. As well, knowing that you are setting up your future right now, if you aren’t clear about what you are doing and why you are doing it, you will end up with a future that is not what you had imagined.
Of course, you can’t predict and plan everything in advance, but you can at least make some general plans. In fact, you made some plans before you came into this lifetime; you sketched out some scenarios, chose one particular scenario to start out in, and formulated a few goals that you wanted to achieve. Do you remember what these were?
Your goals weren’t things like “write a best-seller” or “make a million dollars before age 30.” They weren’t “have a stable, long-term marriage” or ” raise a set of exemplary kids.” They weren’t “become famous” or “change history.” No, your goals, as Soul, were more like this: learn to persevere in the face of rejection, learn a solid work ethic, learn to compromise effectively, learn to be a good example and walk your talk, resist the temptation to indulge your ego, or find a way to serve all Life.
What were your goals for this lifetime? Don’t ask someone else to tell you this. Figure it out for yourself. Then start to act on that information. If you’re wrong, you’ll figure that out, too. Will you be the only one who has gone down the wrong path and had to backtrack? No, you’ll be in good company, don’t you worry.
Are you on track for accomplishing your goals for this lifetime? If not, then staying where you are and doing what you’ve always done is not an option, so we’re back at our quote for today: The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are. This doesn’t necessarily mean you will have to move to a different location, but it does mean that you won’t be able to do the very same things you’ve been doing. Something will have to change.
Where are you going? You don’t have to decide that yet. Find out what your starting goals were, first, and think about what you’ve done in your life to bring you where you are today. Perhaps you’ve found that you need to modify your goals a bit. That’s OK. Then do a meditation or contemplation and ask God or your personal spiritual guide what should be your next step. Note that you may not get a definitive answer right away, but stay open to information that comes your way. Pay attention to new people who come into your life, books that seem to just fall into your hands, and insights or nudges that come to you at the oddest times. Write things down, and take the time to review what you have written. Eventually, your next step will suggest itself. From there: take action, even if it is a small action. You’ll know what to do. 🙂