Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.
Our lives are full of doors of all kinds. Some wide open, others shut tightly, and still others in the process of being opened or closed. Some of those doors that are closed now may possibly open in the future, while others will remain firmly closed, no matter what we do.
Let’s talk about the open doors, for a moment. Think of an open door as a potential, and imagine that it takes some energy to keep it open. Now think about what that door leads to. The question is this: Do you really want to go where that door leads, and are you willing to expend the energy to keep it open?
Some doors we keep open a bit too long, and the effort necessary to keep them open takes away from the energy we should be spending on something else. When I finally, emotionally, let go of the idea of having a child of my own, I found that I had all kinds of energy to work with, literally.
Here is another piece of the puzzle.
It’s as if we can only have so many doors open at one time in our lives. Maybe that’s part of the energy thing I just mentioned. It’s hard to close some doors, maybe because we just seem programmed to avoid endings. Endings mean goodbye. They sometimes mean losing someone or something. They often mean moving away from the familiar to the unfamiliar. For whatever reason, we hate to close doors. Lao Tsu said, “New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.” The question to ask yourself is this: If I close this one door, what other door might open?
When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.
–Alexander Graham Bell
Just think – we miss some open doors just because we are not paying attention to them! Our energy always follows our attention. Ask yourself this: What open doors have I been missing because I’ve been paying so much attention to the one that closed?
Some doors open like magic where we never even saw them before. Many things in life are literally invisible to us until we are ready for them. This has to do with our state of consciousness, usually, but it is also the case that we sometimes just need to have other experiences first before we can have this one that suddenly opens up for us.
The idea is that when you “follow your bliss” you are in a state of openness and least resistance. That’s when the right doors open, when we drop our resistance. So many of us are afraid to close other doors because we fear that the “right” ones won’t open, totally unaware that it is our fear itself that is keeping those doors closed to us.
So go ahead and close one door today. And close another one tomorrow… or next week. Don’t keep any doors open any longer than necessary. 🙂